Rather frighteningly it is now 2013 and I am almost 25. When I was younger I assumed that by this point I would have a long term boyfriend, be at the top of a towering career pyramid, be living in London and be drafting my Nobel Prize acceptance speech. Currently only one of those is true (although I am expecting my peace prize nomination any day now).
I am not unhappy about my life right now – in fact being a single blogger in London with enough money to feed myself and a steady job is pretty awesome. But even though I am happy overall, and I live a life full of privilege and equality, day to day its not all sunshine and rainbows.
I am of the generation that concentrates on milestones rather than journeys. In my head I will be happy when I finally take that trip to India, or get the perfect job, or sell more pendants (shameless plug, build a bridge).
Not only are the milestones not the answer to happiness, but thinking that way contributes to a massive portion of negativity e.g. Life now is not as good in comparison with these shining milestones.
So what is a runawaykiwi to do? The answer isn’t for me to make drastic New Years resolutions about losing weight, new jobs, boyfriends and travel – because these are bandaids over my actual day to day state of mind.
Thankfully there is an answer and it comes in the form of a Happiness Project. If you have not read the book , get amongst it. The author Gretchen Rubin had all hallmarks of happiness – the loving family, dream creative job and nice house – and yet she wasn’t happy. So she started her Happiness Project which month by month tackled an area she was dissatisfied with. Some were little things like getting to bed early and keeping the house tidy, where others were bigger like writing a novel. All things which could make her happy.
Thus I take my inspiration where I can get it, and I have started my own. I have written a list of things which I think contribute to my happiness, and will be tackling them over the next year.
First up is two things which I already know change my mood drastically – sleep and sugar. For two weeks (only two to hard core evaluate and then I can keep going if I like) I will be lights out by 10pm and no sugar or candy.
This could be a challenge.
My Happiness Challenge is not about dramatic 2013 resolutions which will die a quiet death in February. This is the year of being happy, of finding out my triggers and living life to enjoy everyday not jut the milestones.
Stay tuned for my first HP update in a couple of weeks.